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How to Handle Your Little Monsters

Dealing with Kids of Divorce on Halloween


The pumpkins are carved, the ghosts are hung and the Disney Princess and Storm Trooper costumes have been purchased.  Everything is all set for creepily jovial, sugar-high fueled fun!  Everything, that is, except the logistics regarding who is taking the kids trick-or-treating; you or your ex.  Uh-oh.  This could be a potentially frightening night, for all the wrong reasons.

Before you end up forever haunted by the memory of this spooky holiday, let’s take a look at what the divorce experts have to say about successfully wrangling the wee ones this year.  We’ve collected information from Diane L. Danois, J.D., bonusfamilies, hermentorcenter.com, brendashoshanna.weebly.com and divorce360.com in an effort to keep the kids grinning widely on this much Hallowed Eve.

Some holidays can be tough for divorced parents; luckily Halloween typically isn’t one of them


Determining who will have custody of the kids on Christmas/Hanukkah or Thanksgiving can be a truly trying experience.  Expectations from both sides of the families can be huge (“I need to see my beautiful grandchildren on the high holy days!”)  Thankfully, Halloween isn’t really viewed as that important to most parents (the kids don’t even get off from school), so relinquishing control of the tykes usually isn’t that big of a deal.  On the other hand, Halloween is very highly regarded in the kid community as much celebrated and glorious day (they get to dress up AND eat a bag a’ candy), so it’s important to think about their wants more than your own.

Come Together?


Unlike a lot of other holidays, actually sharing the evening experience with your ex can be decent (granted, depending on how much you would like to see your ex as an actual skeleton, of course).  The kids are obviously adorable in their little Batman and Frozen outfits and the atmosphere is generally light (despite the frolicking devils, witches and demons, naturally).  Pairing up with your ex partner to drive your offspring door to door to beg for cavity inducing morsels can be a relatively harmless experience, all things considered.

Pick your Poison


If you fall into the ‘I can’t even be in the same room as my ex without taking a machete to them’ camp, then taking the kids out together is not really an option.  So, you need to decide who will mind them.  The easiest solution?  Whoever enjoys the holiday more themselves should take them.  Meaning, if you revel in all the ghoulish elements yourself, the result is that your children will have more fun with you.  The whole point of this day is for your babes to have a good time, so obviously put their interests first (C’mon, you’re a parent; you should be beyond used to this).  Another factor that can help you and your ex decide who should have them this eerie eve is if your kids have a group of like-minded goblins they want to troll a particular neighborhood for Reese’s with.  If they have a set cadre of trick/treating chums, let whichever parent is more conveniently situated, geographically, have them.  It just makes the most sense and won’t confuse the kids at all.

You’re the (Boogey) Boss


All of the professionals in the child psychology field unanimously seem to agree that this should be your decision (who takes whom), not your kids.  Putting them in the middle is not a good idea (clearly there are few, if any, circumstances where this is advocated).  You and your ex should determine who’s taking them beforehand and then that’s it, end of discussion.  The final nail in the coffin…

Play Nice


As with all holidays in general, the kinder you can be (or at least appear) to your ex in front of your kids, the better for their overall well-being.  Nobody wants to see Mummy and Dad-ula arguing about petty things on a day that’s supposed to be full of creepy cheer.  Slap a grin on your face and get through the day; you’ll have the rapidly approaching Thanksgiving to grumble about soon enough.

Keep your Solo Spirits Up!


Finally, if you hand the kids off to your ex and will be spending the night by your lonesome, don’t let the little ones think you are sad about it.  Wish them luck in scaring the other kids so bad that they wet their pants, kiss their clown-make-up laden cheeks, check to see if they’re wearing those annoying reflectors you got them and send them on their merry way.  Even if you’ll be Netflixing a scary movie all alone, make sure the kids think you are genuinely happy about it.  Nobody wants to treat-or-treat while thinking about how sad their left behind parent is (womp womp).

Follow these scarily simple tips and a good night will be had by all.  Then, you will have truly earned the right to ransack their sugary loot and gorge yourself silly on mini-Snickers.

-Joe Leone 

10 Fun Diamond Themed Halloween Costumes!


Don’t have a scary/sexy/hilarious costume picked out yet this year?  Well don’t sit around BOO!-hoo-ing.  Do things the Diamond Lighthouse way; make it all about diamonds!

Diamonds Are a Girl’s Best Friend – replicate the always demure and sexy Marilyn Monroe, as she dripped in diamonds in her portrayal of Lorelei Lee in the iconic film “Gentlemen Prefer Blondes.”  Yes, some people will assume you are Madonna, doing her own rip-off of Marilyn in “Material Girl,” but to those people just coo something in a sugary sweet voice; they’ll get the hint.


The Candy Crush Diamond – yes, Candy Crush requests rank up there with Farmville nonsense in terms of most annoying internet things that people bombard you with on a daily basis, but donning a giant blue diamond outfit will be extremely funny and easily recognizable.  Either rent a well constructed one from your local Halloween/Party store – or make it out of a big blue tarp and some strategically placed hangers.

Bonus Action:  Incessantly follow people around and keep requesting things of them.  Or just have a crush on them.  Or just crush them.


*or you can always be the Diamond Dash panda genie, naturally.

diamond dash

Marina and the Diamonds – beautiful indie rocker Marina doesn’t travel far without her entourage of trusty Diamonds.  Getting her look is a synch; just find the coolest Google image of her and copy away (her trademark feature are those adorable drawn on eyelashes.)  *Ability to sing not necessary.


The Brittney “Toxic” Diamond Bodysuit – okay, some may say you need to have certain physical attributes to pull this one off, but phooey to them; sparkle the night away in dynamic diamond decadence no matter what shape, size or gender you happen to associate with.

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via pinterest.com

The “Sims” Over the Head Diamond – want to let the whole party know that you are the character currently being controlled?  Simply fashion a green diamond out of cardboard, styrofoam or old Starbucks coffee holders, attach it to a headband and violà: instant awesome costume.  *If you’re doing it really last minute, just say you are going as whatever character resembles you the most in whatever outfit you currently have on that day.


Diamond Mummy – remember that real diamond “Morphsuit” that came out last year, which cost the wearer 1.6 million dollars?  Well, indulge in faux lavish ridiculousness this year and copy it.  This is simple: just wrap yourself completely in gauze and then douse yourself in sticky glitter (better yet, have a friend do the second part).  This costume is both cool and creepy.  The bonus?  Every time you make contact with another person or piece of furniture, you will leave behind your eerie trail of glitter (which is impossible to ever remove.  Ever.)

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via aol.com

Baseball Diamond – for the baseball or softball or dirt enthusiast, become an actual baseball diamond.  Just cut the diamond shape into a huge piece of cardboard and wear it around your torso.  Pro level: glue actual dirt and grass on to it for authenticity, along with little bases.  This also provides a really great opportunity to ask people if they want to “get to first base” with you…


Ace of Diamonds – poker players will heart this one.  This is probably one of the simplest outfits to make; again, grab a big piece of cardboard, and then use a sharpie to draw the diamonds on it, etc.  Move of the night: whenever there is a group or area you want to be a part of, shout: “I’m all in!” and dive right in there – then enjoy as the hilarity (or awkwardness) ensues.


Jem – this animated 80’s rocker was all about gems (um, hello, it’s her name).  Just adorn yourself with every pink item in your wardrobe (dig those dusty leg warmers out from the back) and Jem yourself up.  She wore magical earrings which produced holograms, so grab yourself a handy pair of those – or at least some giant cubic zirconia ones.

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via wikipedia.org

Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds – we by no means are condoning ingesting psychotropic substances, but this costume can be far-out fun nonetheless.  Just dress like a hippie who is experiencing a psychedelic trip of some sort, and then make a big cloud out of cotton puffs/balls and wear it around your waist (so you are actually in the sky).  The final ingredient is a bunch of strategically placed (plastic) diamonds in the cloud and in your hair.  Presto: you’ve now got the grooviest costume of the night.


Remember, you’ll never get tricked and you’ll always get treated well when selling your old diamond jewelry with diamondlighthouse.com.

Happy Halloween!


-Joe Leone